Wow – 1573 visits at the time of writing this, I’ve definitely been slacking here huh? Ah well – didn’t commit to any ‘schedule’ so it doesn’t really matter does it?
I thought I’d throw my $.02 in here on the marriage debate – as I am recently married. Yes, in the “traditional” sense. I’ve been with my wife for about 6 ½ years – married of that for 6 months and we couldn’t be happier.
I agree with Mizzle’s comment 100% here:
“For me marriage is a union of 2 people who want to be with each other more then they want to be with others. Including their old friends from their era of freedom.”
That’s not to say that we don’t enjoy being with our old friends as well, however, we ARE each others’ best friend. A friend of mine married his wife in 2008, they have what would be known as an “open” relationship. While I don’t think anything is wrong with their relationship, they’re certainly happy and love each other very much, one question comes to my mind.
If you’re going to have an open relationship, much like the one B.@.D. described in his post; why get married at all?
It seems to me that, for two people who are not 100% committed to each other, marriage really shouldn’t be something they would want. If two consenting adults want to be in a relationship together, but still have the freedom to sleep around, I have no problem with that. However why do they have the desire to get married? If marriage is intended to show the commitment you have to another – then indeed, in an “open” marriage, I don’t feel you ARE 100% committed to your partner.
Again, I do not feel it’s wrong to have a consensual open relationship (as long as all parties in relationship KNOW it’s an open relationship); it just confuses me that people, who are not committed to each other, want to pretend to be committed to each other.
Why does the divorce rate being high bother so many people? Why does the word “divorce” give anybody an instant bad aura.
Hopeful single man: “Hi, my name’s John; I’m 32, an engineer, and recently divorced”
Potential piece of ass: “hhhhhhhsssssssssss, away with you!”
Frankly, I’d rather be divorced, than remain in an unhappy marriage.
I actually disagree with B.@.D. on his stance on divorce here. I don’t think that the higher divorce rate has any indication of society progressively getting stupider, marrying too young, marriage being out-dated etc.
I propose that a higher divorce rate actually shows that society is actually evolving, and is able to say, “yes, I’m in an un-happy marriage, but I’m not stuck here”. Society was different in the 1950s. I’d like to see a survey which shows the number of 80 year olds who WISH they had gotten a divorce, but didn’t due to societal pressure of the atomic family.
Do I want to get a divorce? No. Did I think before my wedding that I could get a divorcet? No (I 100% believe we’ll be together forever *cue sappy cliché music*). If for some reason, one of us wanted out of our marriage, would I get a divorce? Sure.
Coming up Next post?
The Zombie Apocalypse and anything else I can think of!
Seeing as this seems to be a trend on here nowadays:
B-Rush’s song for the day:
Rob Zombie (not his BEST work, but DAMN it’s catchy!)
Album of the day
“Hellbilly Deluxe 2”